Ahh, the Married Life…
So as you may have noticed, I haven’t been writing a lot in the last few months. But I have an excuse peoplezzzzz! I got married. My parents and a few really special friends came down for the ceremony and to spend time with Javier and I on our wedding week.
Lots of people have asked me if we did a “traditional” Argentine wedding and the answer is no. I think when most people think of the “traditional Argentine wedding” it’s like this: Sometime during the week is the civil ceremony. That’s ceremony number one. After the ceremony and photos everyone goes someplace to have lunch or dinner – this may mean to a restaurant or as in the case of one wedding that I attended a few years ago, back to the house of either the bride or groom’s parents to have hors d’oeurves and drinks. This may last well into the wee hours of the night.
Then there’s the religious ceremony that happens on a weekend evening usually. After the ceremony, the couple invites people to the reception. Just as in many other parts of the world, this is usually held at an event space or hotel. The unusual thing about “Argentine” weddings is the amount of food consumed and the longevity of the reception. Here is what I experienced as a typical reception:
Upon arrival: drinks (wine, champagne, soda, mixed drinks) offered. Everyone is standing up and a picada of cheeses, meats (cold and barbequed) and other hors d’oerves are served.
After an hour: Everyone sits down at their tables and gets to listen to a few speeches, the bride and groom welcoming everyone to their reception, etc etc.. It’s time to eat. Now, it depends on the bride and groom’s budget how many courses are served, but again, here’s what I’ve experienced.. perhaps the waiters would bring out provoleta or another appetizer. Then comes the main course. Followed by more drinks.
After the main course, the bride and groom cut the cake and have their first dance. After the first few songs have been played, everyone is usually asked to return to their seats for what may be another half hour while desserts come out and either more speeches or perhaps a video or slideshow is played of the couple. Then people return to the dance floor.
There’s a lot of people throwing the bride and groom up in the air, lots more drinking and then everyone sits down to be served tea and coffee or another light snack. This goes on throughout the night. A lot of times, people even hire “party animators” to get people back up and dancing between the hours of 2-4am. They bring costumes, hats, masks and noisemakers as everyone starts to gain their second wind. Around 4am, pizza may be served. If the wedding goes throughout the night and into the wee hours of the morning, a breakfast table is usually set up with sweets, fruits, juices and coffee.
Our wedding was a lot different than that. We just had the civil ceremony and invited our family and best man and maid of honor to eat at one of our favourite restaurants, Don Julio. After that, Javier and I returned to the hotel for a nice long nap, knowing that this was going to be a long night ahead of us. At 6pm, we returned to our home to receive the catering and set everything up for the cocktail party later on that night. The whole house was cleared of furniture and each room was a dance floor or mini-living room where people could sit down and chat.
Luckily it was a lovely night and our terrace was also full of people. When guests started arriving at 9:30pm, we were all set with meats and cheeses, sushi and tacos. Throughout the night, people were served champagne and wine, with the option of a few mixed drinks. We received a gift from our wonderful friends Frank and Fabri at Sugar and Spice – so people could munch on a bunch of deeeeelicious Chocolate Chip and Oatmeal Raisin (to DIE FORRRR….) cookies and my many many cupcakes that I made the day before – well, I **AM** the Palermo Cupcakery, of course I’ll make my own wedding cakes!
The party ended at 8:30am and by the end of the night, our toilet was completely broken, there were cups and plates all over the place… spilled drinks and tons of cleaning to do. That morning, we spent two hours cleaning the apartment. The next day, we came back to the apartment in the evening and cleaned for another 5 hours and had all the leftover foods with family and friends. The day after, we spent another 7 hours cleaning. The toilet didn’t get fixed for another week. It was gross.
Anyway, a few weeks later, my parents left, and I’ve been busier than a hummingbird with my businesses and Javier with his architecture. So we have yet to go on our honeymoon!!! We were going to go to my hometown for Christmas, but that is getting a little complicated and starting to look more expensive than a trip to the moon. Anyway, we’ll figure it out. It’ll probably be delayed until next year.
Meanwhile, as if we’re not busy enough with work, we’re moving in a little over a month!!Tags: argentina, argentine weddings, bathroom, marriage, married, wedding